…how do you feel about them? (I am not talking about one time hook-ups)
A friend of mine (let us call her T) is in a “relationship” (i.e. in all social situations they are simply friends, but when they are alone they tend to hook up…often) with a guy she knew in college. She says that she likes that there are no strings attached…but are there? She says that she is very physically attracted to him, but she feels he is mentally and emotionally lacking in the boyfriend department so she has no problem hooking up with him on a fairly regular basis.
AND her “friend” has made it clear that eventually their hooking up must come to an end if he finds someone that he wants to seriously pursue in the dating department. She understands this, intellectually anyway…but does she?
I have always thought when sex becomes involved, no matter how good our intentions, most people are just not able to separate the emotional from the physical. She disagrees with me…
It is like in the movie “When Harry Met Sally,” men and women cannot just be friends if they are actively having a sexual relationship with no intention of it going further than anything physical.
So, do you think two people who are good friends can simply be friends with benefits? Thoughts?
